Well-known Nigerian culinary content producer Ify’s Kitchen has shared details of her nine-year journey through infertility, highlighting the mental struggles and social pressures she encountered along the way. The content developer described the emotional pain of waiting for a child in a recent appearance on the Terms and Conditions podcast.
She clarified, saying, “You have no idea, which really messes with you during the waiting period. It wasn’t the best at all. When someone tells you that you will give birth in seven or eight years and you are clueless, that’s a different story.” Ify had no intention of starting a family during their first year of marriage, according to her spouse. In the second year, though, they started to wonder what was going on.
“My husband and I planned to just chill for the first year and not try for kids but by the second year we were like, ‘Wait a minute, isn’t it supposed to be very easy?'” she stated.
She described how their concern grew over time, and the wait negatively affected her mental and emotional state to the point that she thought God detested her. “It was incredibly tough; second-year students assumed it would happen, but by the third year, I had no idea what was going on.
After twenty years, Ify remarked, “You would see people talking about women giving birth, and it was really, really hard.” She said in closing, “I saw a comment somewhere that said, ‘Those of you who give birth easily don’t know what God has done for you, God loves you.'” It wasn’t addressed at me, but I felt like God truly hated me. That day at work, I cried and begged God why he didn’t love me and what I had done.
