Taymesan, a Nigerian media figure, has talked candidly about the pain he had as a result of not having both of his parents raise him.
He discussed his upbringing being raised by his grandmother rather than his parents in an interview with Pulse Nigeria, emphasizing that at first he had no problems with it.
“I didn’t feel any kind of way when I was growing up because I thought that was the normal family setting,” he explained. I was well-off and my grandmother would send us to the best schools, but as I grew older, this absence of a family environment began to effect me in my thirties.
He started to recognize that he had abandonment difficulties and other trauma responses in his twenties.
“In addition to having abandonment issues, I was quite private and didn’t want other people to see me. My grandmother did everything she could to raise me, even when I was in my teens, since I believe both parents were necessary to raise me. Thus, when I didn’t possess
I got quite independent too quickly and began to protect myself when I didn’t have that,” he stated.
As he went on, “I started seeking for ways to defend myself after realizing that people weren’t as kind as my grandmother. Because I did it for so long, I now have walls up that I couldn’t take down no matter how hard I tried.”
According to the media celebrity, one special quality he acquired as a coping strategy was humor.
He explained, “Humour was one of the mechanisms I picked up in uni, I could make everybody laugh but I used it to turn everyone away from me.
“I was accepted since humor was one of the things I utilized to make people happy around me. I was a compulsive people-pleaser who was seeking approval,” he continued.
